Have you experienced Divorce? Are you questioning what your future will be after your vows of “I do” turn into “I do not” along with the loss of all the dreams that never will be fulfilled? Divorced and Scared No More: Emotional Support for the Newly Divorced is the first installment of the three-part trilogy written to assist readers in post-divorce related matters while providing you the motivation you need to move on.
Author Tasher speaks from personal experience; having gone through the many stages of relationships. This includes denial of a failed marriage, expressiveness needed to gain healing and how to remain emotionally grounded. You’ll find ways to embrace your new found freedom and turn the lemons life threw at you into a Zesty Lemon Sorbet!
Therapist and clinical author Justin Nutt, LSCSW, LAC consulted as a technical advisor for the series. Insuring everything presented be accurate and quality material while still being a comforting, easy-to-read guide to surviving divorce.
Co-Author Tony Haynes is a practitioner of Acrostic Poetry -poetry where the first, last or other letters in a line spell out a particular word or phrase. At the end of each chapter, you can look forward to reading a clever poem from words found within the word DIVORCE. These are poetic thoughts that ask “How did I get here?” This rite of passage has everything to do with life and our stories affects each other because we are all connected. Now it’s time to peek inside and see how, where & why our lives intersect.
There are so many insightful topics in the book, which will help you feel inspired to look inward and become aware of your needs to help you live again. There is still life after emotional death … Isn’t it time for you to be happily divorced and Divorced and Scared NO More?
Living Life Free of Fears
Each and every day dawns upon us brand new. Today can be the day you take the chance to make entirely new choices. (Yes, it is.) Rather than waiting for the perfect day or time, now is the best chance you have to start over and make everything right. Really, it is! So why wait? The sooner you get on track and begin living the life you want and deserve, the sooner you will reach your goal.
Life after a long relationship ends is difficult (just a slight understatement). In the very beginning I was just another lady down on love. I was married for over twenty years to the same person, and it came to an abrupt end one day—on our anniversary, no less. It was a terrible way for the marriage to end. After taking time to lick my wounds, I once again became my ever-optimistic self. I have found my way through divorce’s aftermath by staying positive, always putting my children first, and focusing on my freedom to make positive changes for myself as a result of my divorce…….
……..So now you may be asking, what helped me process my divorce so well? When I was young, I remember most nights at my grandparents’ house going something like this: After dinner my father would start tapping his finger, and then my Uncle Rob would pick up some spoons and begin tapping along. Very quickly my Aunt Wanda would go get her guitar, and everyone would find something to play.
The rest of the night would be spent singing, dancing, and laughing. My father’s dry humor interacting with my Uncle Reg’s slapstick was a guarantee for a sore belly (the good kind of sore) in the morning. 44 Because my family always relied on humor and music to express our feelings, during my divorce and recovery I listened to empowering songs of hope. All I can say is that I am proud of the climb I made. Miley Cyrus recorded the song “The Climb” at just the right time for me. I sure do love GodWinks and how they randomly come in your life.
The night before I moved out of our family home, my daughter, Baby Cakes, put on some music to start my playlist. In the empty dining room, my oldest son, Bucky, and youngest, Boo Boo, grabbed me and danced with me, telling me they knew I would survive (my adult children had more faith in me than I did). But I did realize I could survive, if not for me, then for them. And I was much stronger in their eyes than I felt at the time.